Dowry

Template:Cleanup A dowry is a gift of money or valuables given by the bride's family to the groom and the newly formed household at the time of their marriage. It is often a reciprocal part of a similar gift given from the groom and his family to the bride called a bride price. The two customs have been so intertwined, dowry is often used to mean bride price. It has been an ancient and widespread practice of unknown origin. The original intent seems to be to help with expenses in the creation of the new family, help bond the families and provide a support for the bride in case of future problems such as widowhood or divorce. Today, it is practiced throughout the world in various areas and cultures, with some controversy over the rolie it plays in domestic violence and abuse of women.

Overview

Historically most societies have brides go to their husband's families, and often they could not own property. Usually, the husband has been primarily responsible for the economic prosperity of the household, while women cared for children and the household needs. When a woman or girl would marry into a family that was agricultural, she often was welcomed as another worker. In families that were more prestigious, however, she may have been viewed as another mouth to feed. In such cases, the dowry would show an acknowledgement of the privelege she was to have as a member of her husband's family. The earliest dowries were usually land entitlements, but later were attached to various commodities and even later to cash.

Unmarried women have been seen to attract stigma and tarnish family reputations in soem earlier societies. In these cases,it have been in the bride's family's interest to marry off their daughter as soon as she wass eligible^{[citation needed]}. The size of the necessary dowry was directly proportional to the groom's social status, thus making it virtually impossible for lower class women to marry into upper class families. In cases where a woman's family was too poor to afford a dowry,she may have been forbidden from ever marrying, or became a concubine to a richer man who could afford to support a large household. Dowries have been part of civil law in almost all countries, Europe included. Dowries were important components of ancient Greekand Roman marriages.

Conversely, the similar custom of property given to the bride by the groom and his family has beem called adower or a bride price. This gift has been traditionally used to show gratitude to the family of the girl for "giving" her to the husband's family. Some have benefited greatly from this practice.

In either case, the bride has usually been entitled to her dowry or dower in the event of widowhood, hence the terms "dowry" and "dower" are sometimes confused. The children of the bride were also traditionally included in inheritance of the dowry, and often this provided the only support such children had where there were other children by other women involved.

The Ancient World

It is described in the oldest records, such as the Code of Hammurabi as a pre-existing custom, where it prescribed only regulations for how dowry was to be handled. The code also included regulations for a bride price. If a woman died without sons, her husband had to refund the dowry but could deduct the value of the bride price, the dowry would normally have been the larger of the sums. It marks the first record of long-lasting customs, such as the wife being entitled to her dowry at her husband's death. Her dowry was inheritable only by her own children, not by her husband's children by other women.

In Homeric times, the usual Greek practice was of a bride price. When dowries were practiced in classical times, there would also be a (smaller) bride price being given by the groom to the bride's family. Ancient Romans and Athenian Greeks did not allow women to own property. A widow needed a male relative to administer her estate that would included the dowry. The Roman Tacitus noted that among the German(s), the practice was the reverse: a groom settled a dower on the bride. The dowry only became part of ancient Egyptian culture after they were under the Greek and Roman influence. Women in Egypt were always legally allowed to own property and manage their own affairs, so probably they had less need of this type of provision.

Europe

With the advent of Christianity and religious orders, women brought their dowries with them when they became nuns, as they were becoming the "bride" of Christ.

Dowry in Europe continued through Victorian England. It was seen as an early payment of her inheritance, and as such only daughters who had not received their dowry were entitled to part of the estate when their parents died. If a couple died without children, the dowry reverted to the bride's family.

Failure to provide a customary, or agreed-upon, dowry could call off a marriage. William Shakespeare made use of this in King Lear — one of Cordelia's wooers ceases to woo her on hearing that King Lear will give her no dowry — and Measure for Measure — Claudio and Juliet's premarital sex was brought about by their families' wrangling over dowry after the betrothal, and Angelo's motive for forswearing his betrothal with Mariana is the loss of her dowry at sea.

Folklorists often interpret Cinderella and its variants as competition between the stepmother and the stepdaughter for resources, which may include the need to provide a dowry. Gioacchino Rossini's opera La Cenerentola, makes this economic basis explicit: Don Magnifico wishes to make his own daughters' dowry larger, to attract a grander match, which is impossible if he must provide a third dowry.

One common penalty of the time for the kidnapping and rape of unmarried women was that the abductor or rapist had to provide the woman's dowry.

Providing dowries for poor women was regarded as a form of charity. The custom of Christmas stockings springs from a legend of St. Nicholas, in which he threw gold in the stockings of three poor sisters, thus providing for their dowries. St. Elizabeth of Portugal and St. Martin de Porres were particularly noted for providing such dowries, and the Archconfraternity of the Annunciation, a Roman charity dedicated to providing dowries, received the entire estate of Pope Urban VII.

In some parts of Europe, land dowries were common. In Grafschaft Bentheim, for instance, it was not uncommon for people who had no sons to give a land dowry to their new son-in-law with the stipulation attached that with the land comes the family name whence it came, thus a condition of the land dowry was that the groom would take on the family name of his bride.

In Europe it is common for the bride's family to pay for the majority of the wedding costs.

India

The origins of the dowry custom in India is lost in antiquity, although there is some evidence for it being practiced prior to 300 B.C.E. among the upper castes such as the Brahmins and Kshatriyas. It is unknown if it was brought with the conquering armies and mass marriages of Alexander the Great, or if it was practiced prior to that. The earliest dowries were usually of land.

The Indian dowry system changed under the colonial rule of the Brittish Empire, and the increased urbanization that evoolved. Farmers were subjected to taxes in ways they were not previously familir. Previously, some villages had a socialistic type of system with the village as a whole "owning" the land. In these cases, they did not give dowries that related to land. Prior to the British Dowry system and continuing today, other wealth given during weddings was the jewelry/ornaments passed from mother to daughter for generations.

In India, although illegal, the dowry practice is still common. It is especially common in arranged marriages and rural areas and widely recognized as a traditional ritual of marriage. The country is largely divided with a majority of Hindus and the largest minority being Muslim. There are separate laws involving each religous background. Demanding dowry has been prohibited by law for all since 1961, but many loopholes in the law provide opportunities for many instances of dowry practices being sanctioned by the law.

The woman may be provided for, but she may also come back to the courts and collect more dowry if she feels it necessary. The government of India made several laws detailing severe punishment to anyone demanding dowry and a law in the Indian Penal Code (Section 498A). While it gives a boost to a woman and her family, it also may put a man and his family in a great disadvantage. Misuse of this law by women in urban India and several incidents of extortion of money from the husband by the wife and her family have come to light. The law states jailing of ANY person the wife names in a written complaint. Old people and even children have been jailed by such misuse. The law has a misandry tone to it. The motive for the removal of a requirement of evidence (under section 113B) is unique to this application of the penal code and currently not clearly understood.

A modern twist on the custom is the practice of some of the husband's families continuing to demand more and more dowry long after the marriage ceremony has been performed. The practice of SATI, or self-immolation of the bride upon becomming a widow, has been developed from ancient Hidu stories about a particularly faithful and loving wife showing her devotion by jumping on her husband's funeral pyre in order to remain together. In modern India this practice has not ended, but has taken a new twist. Unfortunately, often this immolation is not voluntary, and in 1999 there were about 6,000 reported dowry deaths or bride burning(s) where a woman's family did not succumb to the demands of continued dowry and killed the daughter in law, claiming it was suicide or an accident. It is noted that this problem is severely under-reported. It must be noted, however, that that figure represents less than 0.001% of the total population in India and does not charictarize any type of social norm.

Another probelm that arises is that the girl child's dowry and wedding expenses may send her family into a huge debt trap. In rural areas, families sell their land holdings, while the urban poor sell their houses.

Increasing education and awareness has reduced the instances of this and in some areas notably West Bengal it has virtually been wiped out. Actually education is the biggest factor in ending forced dowries, as the Bengalis(residents of West Bengal) were Great Britain's first colony on the subcontinent and benefited most from the education system of the English The practice was eradicated there primarily due to the combination of the powerful influence of education illustrating multitudes of alternate choices and the enforcement of the outlawing of the practice by Lord Bentik of the East India Company.

China

Ancient China has been a patriarchal society influenced by Confucian ethics and traditions. Confucian ethics dictates that the man should provide for his family, yet the dowry is left under some control of the wife. The priorites of where the dowry money should be spent by the wife are dictated by Confucian rule, and are quite specific as to who is first, who is next and so on.

The bride price was and still is far more important and to the onset of the acceptance of the marriage arrangements and is usually larger than the dowry. A family would not "lose face" if they could not come up with dowry, but the man's family would be very embarassed if they could not produce the bride price.

• In the traditional Chinese society, dowry is a symbol of social status as well as affection from the bride's family. The parading of the dowry during the traditional Chinese weddingwedding procession from the bride's home to the groom's home was and is still to some extent important in the various rituals.

• The Cultural Revolution)under Mao's reign, was a time of tumultuous change. Both the dowry and the bride price were denounced as being feudalistic and materialistic, thus degrading morals, and traditional Chinese weddings that were associated with dowry and bride price became nearly extinct. Due to the Chinese economic reform, there was a resurgence of traditional Chinese weddings and along with it, both the dowry and the bride price have re-emerged in China since 1980s.

South America

Although Dowry and Bride Price has been practiced by many indigineous tribes, since the Spanish colonization of most of South America and the Portugese colonization of Brazil, the practice has changed inexorably toward those of Spain and Portugal. Spanish law differs significantly from English law, in terms of Dowry the remnant of Roman Law can be seen. In many countries, dowry is still honored as a contractual obligation for the benefit of the wife. This has not been the case in England and most of her colonies for a few hundred years.

Catholicsm was a state church of Spain during the colonial years, and as they administer marriages the Bride Price has been incorporated into the ceremony in terms of a symbol of 13 gold coins that represent the sincerity of the groom to provide for his new wife. Thirteen represents Jesus and the twelve disciples, and after the presentation of the gift, the Priest wraps a cloth around ond hand of each in a figure eight pattern to bind them together.

Any other practices have been changing to mostly local and rural communities.

Africa

Dowry and Bride Price has been part of various societies within the continent. Modernization has influenced the practice, and there is much current debate on whether it is good or bad. As tribal practices vary widely, and many laws are still pending, it is hard to draw any universal patterns. Even the Islamic community seems divided in that some do continue this cultural practice, while others claim it is not Koranic and opposite to the true faith one should show in Islam.

The United States

Marriage has traditionally been a state issue in the United States, not under the Federal legal system. Dowry has not been included in the civil law in all of states except Louisiana, which is heavily influenced by the Napoleonic Code and Roman Civil Law. In Louisiana, Dowry rights are protected where in the other states they are not recognized and property rights must be established outside of the dowry contract.

The United States has kept alive an original intent of the dowry system in an unusual way. The Hope Chest, or Glory Chest as it is called in the Australian outback, was a method to provide a type of dowry for the daughter while pioneering the frontier. In the UK, it's often known as the Bottom Drawer, a place where things are bought, collected, made, stored. In the difficult situation presented by the westward movement in the United States in the 1800 s, the mother would teach her daughter how to make the things she would need to start up her household. Together they made items like quilts, aprons, pillow cases and collect china ware, pots and anything that would have functional or sentimental value for the preparation of the girl's marriage. These would fill the chest, and often became precious heirlooms for many generations. "A ready hand and heart, my girl, that's what we're making, not just a hope chest, a hope that you're prepared for any eventuality". This represented a mother's expression to her daughter on the frontier by Laura Ingalls Wilder, the author of the popular "Little House on the Prairie" series. She herself records that by the time she was a woman, she had more than a dozen quilts in her chest.

In the United States, this custom has been preserved and changed. Traditionally, dowry has involved property and money transfer from the families, and particularly from the patriarch as well as including sentimental and practical items. In the United States, the dowry is exclusively practical items and entirely the domain of women, particularly mothers educating and guiding daughters. The popular movie "An American Quilt" gives some of the atmosphere of a community of elder women helping to fill a hope chest and prepare a younger woman for the resopnsibilites involved in her future family, not only with things but with the lessons they had learned.

This practice remained quite popular through the 1950s especially in the midwest. Except for some rural areas, the tradition declined from the 1960s to the year 2000. There is some resurgence in the custom in the twenty first century, and activity on the internet to help provide networks of goods and services and ideas for all types of Hope Chests. The Hope Chest has become something more than a practical preparation for married life, beyond the property aspects of a "dowry." This movement contemporarily serves to help young women stay chaste/chastity, understand her value and prepare various skills and attitudes to help her be ready to give to her prospective husband and family.

External links and references

• Ember, Carol R. and Melvin Ember. 2004. Cultural Anthropology. New Jersey: Pearson, Prentis Hall. ISBN 0131116363
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