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'''Mail Order''': Sometimes, the term "arranged marriage" may be used even if the parents had no direct involvement in selecting the spouse. A mail-order bride is selected by a man from a catalog of such women, sometimes with the assistance of a marriage agency. Mail-order husbands also exist through "reverse publications". Rather than waiting to be contacted, women can contact men directly from advertisements in publications. In this case, an arranged marriage may be beneficial because the man's parents can get to know the woman and her family to better ensure that she is not misrepresenting herself in order to simply immigrate to a wealthy country. Also, the woman's parents can learn about the man and his family to ensure that their daughter will be safe in a foreign country. | '''Mail Order''': Sometimes, the term "arranged marriage" may be used even if the parents had no direct involvement in selecting the spouse. A mail-order bride is selected by a man from a catalog of such women, sometimes with the assistance of a marriage agency. Mail-order husbands also exist through "reverse publications". Rather than waiting to be contacted, women can contact men directly from advertisements in publications. In this case, an arranged marriage may be beneficial because the man's parents can get to know the woman and her family to better ensure that she is not misrepresenting herself in order to simply immigrate to a wealthy country. Also, the woman's parents can learn about the man and his family to ensure that their daughter will be safe in a foreign country. | ||
| − | '''Love-cum-arranged marriage''' is a matrimony between a mutually acceptable and consenting couple that has been facilitated by the couple’s parents. Etymological Note: Cum is Latin for | + | '''Love-cum-arranged marriage''' is a matrimony between a mutually acceptable and consenting couple that has been facilitated by the couple’s parents. Etymological Note: Cum is Latin for or “together with.(Quoted from Double-Tongued Word Wrester http://www.doubletongued.org/index.php/dictionary/love_cum_arranged_marriage) |
==Practice in Various Cultures== | ==Practice in Various Cultures== | ||
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===Marriage in Islam=== | ===Marriage in Islam=== | ||
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===Shidduch=== | ===Shidduch=== | ||
| − | Shidduch (or shiduch) (Hebrew: שידוך, pl. shid[d]uchim | + | Shidduch (or shiduch) (Hebrew: שידוך, pl. shid[d]uchim שידוכי) means a "[a] match" between a man and a woman, as well as the system of introducing eligible and marriageable singles to each other in Orthodox Jewish communities. |
The Talmud (tractate Kiddushin 41a) states that a man may not marry a woman until having seen her first. This edict is based on the Torah statement: "Love your neighbour (re'acha) like yourself" (Leviticus 19:18), where the word "neighbor" can be interpreted as "spouse". In other words, a marriage that is arranged so completely that the prospective couple has not even seen each other is strongly discouraged, based on the understanding that such a marriage is likely to be doomed without love. | The Talmud (tractate Kiddushin 41a) states that a man may not marry a woman until having seen her first. This edict is based on the Torah statement: "Love your neighbour (re'acha) like yourself" (Leviticus 19:18), where the word "neighbor" can be interpreted as "spouse". In other words, a marriage that is arranged so completely that the prospective couple has not even seen each other is strongly discouraged, based on the understanding that such a marriage is likely to be doomed without love. | ||
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The critics and proponents of arranged marriage agree that true love is the main component for a happy marriage and family. Spiritual and cultural backgrounds and practices play a large part in arranged marriages. While some critics like to see a couple get to know each other before the marriage, many proponents of arranged marriage accept this process to take place after the commitment of marriage. | The critics and proponents of arranged marriage agree that true love is the main component for a happy marriage and family. Spiritual and cultural backgrounds and practices play a large part in arranged marriages. While some critics like to see a couple get to know each other before the marriage, many proponents of arranged marriage accept this process to take place after the commitment of marriage. | ||
| − | Part of the difference in views stems from the basic motivation for the marriage in the first place such as this quote illustrates: “What method other than exchange marriage will empower Whites and Blacks, Jews and Muslims, Orientals and Westerners, and people of all races to live as one human family? | + | Part of the difference in views stems from the basic motivation for the marriage in the first place such as this quote illustrates: “What method other than exchange marriage will empower Whites and Blacks, Jews and Muslims, Orientals and Westerners, and people of all races to live as one human family?(Reverend Dr. Sun Myung Moon "God's Ideal Family - the Model for World Peace" September 12, 2005 - Lincoln Center, New York, New York) |
The bottom line is that arranged marriages have existed since ancient times and have continued to be not only accepted but developed along with the technological advances of this era. | The bottom line is that arranged marriages have existed since ancient times and have continued to be not only accepted but developed along with the technological advances of this era. | ||
